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Talking about the Hard Things… Money.

We have been away for a little bit…

So I thought I could give a bit of a “life update”

When we first decided to take the job here in NZ, we knew it would be a stretch financially because of how much the cost of living is (for example, our tiny basement apartment is $610/week) 😱

When we did our calculations, we knew that Josh keeping his job back in the states would be pivotal… so we went directly to his boss and asked. He was on board, so we said yes!

Well, that job back in the states has shifted and now it’s looking like the income we had expected from that will be very different.

So we kinda tucked our heads into our little turtle shell and asked God to do a miracle.  God has already started that miracle, but it’s much different than we originally thought.  Finances have changed, yes… but so has our trust in God. He has been SO evident in this process.

So why the break from IG and blogging??

Honestly, I value authenticity and being able to show “real” moments with people… but I wasn’t at the place mentally or spiritually to be ok with sharing until we had a peace about it…  And honestly, sometimes that just takes time.  I also NEVER want to be the “poor pitiful us” type of people… so God had to work a few things out in us to even be able to share.

Two things that are a challenge to talk about… sex and money…

Both of those things are a part of our everyday lives…but we NEED to be talking about them (in healthy ways) in order to move past them and keep God in them…

So… that’s where we have been… now you know… now we will resume our regular scheduled programming 😬😂

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Friendships…

Friendships as an adult are a very tricky thing to handle. I think we as women sometimes take things out of context. We think that if someone doesn’t immediately drop everything they are doing when we ask them to hang out that person is in fact rejecting us… Or if we ask a few times and they can’t make it, that they must have been “blowing smoke” when they said they wanted to hang out…

But here’s the deal… when we were single, in our 20’s, or even married but had no children, things were different. Our schedules were our own. We were able to go to dinner or coffee on a whim. We were able to do what we wanted with our time. But having kids changes things.

It changes things in many ways for the good and many ways that are just different. And our time is one of those things that is different.

Let’s be clear, this is not one of those posts where we lament that motherhood “takes things away” because it adds WAY more than we lose… But lets also see it for what it is… different.

So we need to react different. We need to give each other grace when it comes to time. We need to give ourselves grace when it comes to time. We no longer have the option for dropping everything because our friend is having a bad day. We have to reschedule 10 times because we have these “adult” responsibilities that take priority over what we “want” to do. Kids get sick. Husbands pick up extra jobs to pay the bills. Grandmas need someone to take them to the doctor. Babysitters cancel (or we can’t afford to pay someone to watch the kids). Etc.

We shouldn’t have to worry about us hurting our friends feelings. When we became mothers… life changed, friendships changed, so lets rally around one another and UNDERSTAND instead of getting upset or avoiding someone because its getting tough to fit things into a schedule.

We need to be confident in ourselves and in who we are. So keep asking that friend out to coffee… I PROMISE… She REALLY wants to go.